Why do leaders feel they need to present a front?

In response to Carey Nieuwhof’s post 11 secrets most church leaders won’t tell you

Why do leaders feel like they need to keep their weaknesses hidden? Where is the authenticity?  This is for all of us to take note of, not just those who call themselves “leaders”!

By presenting a false front, and failing to be vulnerable, by imagining (and maybe being right about it!) that the congregation expects a stalwart, strong, collected, perfect man of God, it only exacerbates the sense of artificiality and showy-ness that typifies the American church experience.  

Do leaders think it is a sign of weakness to need others in the body of Christ?  Do they feel it is only appropriate to reach out to their immediate family or peers who are in leadership?  If so, that’s terribly sad!  Such missed opportunity for comfort, love and care!

And why do people in the congregation put people under this kind of absurd pressure?  Making it difficult to open up and be real about personal struggles?  

There are many of us who actually don’t want to read articles explaining our pastors’ possible inner angst and burdens, but instead we want to share real community life, a vital part of which is genuine mutual self disclosure. Let the walls, pedestals, and masks come down!

Leaders, so-called, need to be set free from this harmful mentality that drives a deep wedge between them and others!  

Peace and freedom for all the saints! xoxo

3 thoughts on “Why do leaders feel they need to present a front?”

  1. I believe the answer is due largely to people making ministry an occupation.In Scripture,that would be the exception not the rule,yet in the institutional churches,it is the rule.Because of this fact,Pastors,are not apt to disclose weaknesses,or deficiencies and church goers put all kinds of unreasonable or unrealistic expectations upon their pastors.Pastors in turn put all kinds of duties,obligations,etc. on congregants(to help with all the church work,and ease their work load so they can just focus on study of the word and preaching),This leads to people who already work 40to60 hours a week,basically never having a day off because of their part time job at church.Unlike the pastor,they get no pay.Pastor and ministry burn-out is real….and it’s so unnecessary.Church leaders over many years created this monster,distorting scriptures to coerce and manipulate people to keep feeding it.Lies told over and over,eventually become accepted as though they are true.Jesus will build His Church.Paid professionals hinder,more than help in my opinion.When pastors or leaders just work a job like the rest of us,they will be way more authentic and vulnerable,and the pressures and expectations that others put on them will go away.


    1. Yes, totally concur! Professional paid ministry is a major pitfall and while I wouldn’t say it is categorically and for-any-situation “wrong”, it has a major influence on people’s perceptions of how the body of Christ ought to function! Thanks for sharing such great insights


      1. just wanted to add that I in no way,am “against” pastors/teachers of the Word and feel that they don’t earn their living…I just feel the Church as a whole,would be better off if that were not the case.I also agree,that paid ministry is not always wrong.I would have no problem at all paying to take classes at a Bible college,but I would take them to simply grow in the grace and knowledge of our Lord,not to make ministry my vocation. I think most Bible colleges however,perpetuate vocational ministry,and most who attend them,do so, with that in mind.There would be a lot less people feeling “called to the ministry” if they knew going in,they couldn’t make their living by it.It is a difficult subject.Thanks for letting me weigh in.

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