In response to Carey Nieuwhof’s post 11 secrets most church leaders won’t tell you
Why do leaders feel like they need to keep their weaknesses hidden? Where is the authenticity? This is for all of us to take note of, not just those who call themselves “leaders”!
By presenting a false front, and failing to be vulnerable, by imagining (and maybe being right about it!) that the congregation expects a stalwart, strong, collected, perfect man of God, it only exacerbates the sense of artificiality and showy-ness that typifies the American church experience.
Do leaders think it is a sign of weakness to need others in the body of Christ? Do they feel it is only appropriate to reach out to their immediate family or peers who are in leadership? If so, that’s terribly sad! Such missed opportunity for comfort, love and care!
And why do people in the congregation put people under this kind of absurd pressure? Making it difficult to open up and be real about personal struggles?
There are many of us who actually don’t want to read articles explaining our pastors’ possible inner angst and burdens, but instead we want to share real community life, a vital part of which is genuine mutual self disclosure. Let the walls, pedestals, and masks come down!
Leaders, so-called, need to be set free from this harmful mentality that drives a deep wedge between them and others!
Peace and freedom for all the saints! xoxo